Committed couples don’t let any potential conflict or problem become greater than their commitment to stay married: “We choose to preserve this marriage. We will NOT give up!” Romantic love is great. I don’t want to downplay it in a healthy marriage. But what I do want to elevate is the importance of God’s kind of love which is based on a decision (a vow, even) to love. Love is not something that happens TO us, but something we DO. “Falling in love” implies an accident, not a choice. That means sometimes it’s “work” to stay in love. People change over time & love goes through transitions. Sometimes you just have to hang in there & fight through problems to get to a better place. But it’s worth it…if both are willing to “go by the BOOK.”